In today’s fast-paced world, stress, anxiety, and mental fatigue have become synonymous with modern lifestyle. But what if we could reshape our mind and emotions with just a few simple daily habits? Today we will explore how small, consistent actions can transform the way our brain works—improving our mood, focus, and resilience. Based on ancient wisdom this approach empowers us to take charge of our mental well-being, one habit at a time. Ready to make your mind your strongest ally? Let’s begin.
Number one, do your duty but don’t attach to the results or outcomes that follow. Now, this is a very well-known lesson to almost everyone, right? The lesson says, focus on the process, the journey, and not obsess over what you get from it. Trust the flow of universe and have faith that whatever the end result be. It will always be for your greater good. But how can you apply it in your daily life when your life itself is at stake? Let’s say you’ve got an interview coming up, a big one. You really want this job. So you begin preparing and in the beginning it feels exciting. You are focused, determined, motivated. But slowly you start getting anxious thinking what if the result of the interview doesn’t turn out as per your expectations. What if they ask something I don’t know or what if I freeze or get anxious during the interview. You are still in the preparation phase but you are tensed and anxious. That is where the real trouble begins. Your amygdala, the emotional part of the brain runs faster and the logical brain shuts down. You cannot give your 100% there because half your energy is preparing and the other half is suffering. So you overthink, you lose sleep and you perform from a place of fear. And even if you do get the job, you’re exhausted because the journey drained you. And if you don’t get the job, you are disappointed. This is why the lesson is very important. Let’s say the moment when your head said, “What if I fail?” You pause and remember this lesson and you ask yourself, “What is actually in my control and what is not? I can prepare. I can sleep well. I can show up on time. I can bring my most present, sincere self into that room. But can I control what the panel thinks? No. Can I control who else shows up that day? No. So, you decide to focus on what you can control and everything else you hand it over to God, to the universe, to life, to whatever you believe in. What happens in your brain, the part of your brain that gets hijacked during stress begins to calm down and your prefrontal cortex, the one responsible for logic, clarity, focus, it turns back on. You feel lighter, sharper, you feel like yourself again. So you will prepare with your 100%. And as a result, you win either way. You stay calm. You give your best. And when it’s over, you walk out proud regardless of what they say. When you practice this every day, this lesson will make you into a whole new kind of person. You become more stable, more emotionally regulated. You start becoming the kind of person who doesn’t break when things don’t go your way and don’t get lost when they do. You still want beautiful things. You still care deeply, but you’re no longer controlled by the result. And that is where the real power lies.
Number two, success and failure should be seen equally. There is a quote, the strength of a person is in how they remain grounded during success and graceful in failure. Let’s be honest, this one is easier said than done, right? Because from the time we were kids, we’ve been conditioned to chase success and avoid failure like it’s a disease. Win the game, you’re celebrated. Fail the exam, you’re shamed. We have been taught to associate our entire identity to outcomes that are considered as success in the eyes of society. This is where the real problem begins. But what no one tells us is success and failure are just emotional energies. They are temporary waves that pass through your nervous system. One gives you a dopamine high, the other triggers a cortisol crash. But neither one is the truth. Neither one is you. If you don’t realize this, you will ride emotional roller coasters all your life. When things go well, you feel invincible. But when they don’t, you feel worthless. But when you start seeing both for what they are, just energy, you stop living in reaction. You become emotionally immune. That means you still enjoy your wins. You still feel the pain of losses, but you’re no longer ruled by them. You become the kind of person who walks steady through both applause and silence. And that is real maturity. Your brain will strengthen when you practice this regularly. It will make you peaceful. You become someone who celebrates success without becoming arrogant and meets failure without collapsing inside.
Number three, your mind can be your best friend or your worst enemy. Imagine you have a horse. wild, fast, powerful. If you train it, it will take you far. But if you don’t, it will throw you off, run in circles or may be even run you off a cliff. That’s your mind. And most of us have never learned to ride the powerful horse because no one taught us how. See, there are two parts of your mind. The conscious mind, the small voice in you that plans, reflects, and makes intentional choices. And the subconscious mind, the part that runs 90 to 95% of your life without asking for permission. Your habits, your emotional reactions, your beliefs about yourself and the world. Most of it it’s subconscious, which means it is old, learned, repeated, not necessarily true. So when your mind says, “I’m not good enough. That’s not the truth. That is your conditioned mind based on years of programming coming from the society, family, peers and the like. And if you never question it and let the horse run wherever it wants, your mind becomes your enemy. It will take you out of opportunities, keep you stuck in emotional loops and make you mistake fear for truth. But if you can take the reins back, you ride the horse, right? And how do you do that? While there are many ways to start, two of the most powerful tools are already within you. Your breath and your self-talk. Breath is the thread that controls your mind like the thread which controls a flowing kite. When your mind goes into fear, threat, confusion, run like a wild untamed horse. Your amygdala becomes overactive and your stress hormones spike. Here your breath is the key to a peaceful mind. Take a deep slow breath. Inhale, hold and exhale slowly. With this you are activating your parasympathetic nervous system and activating your prefrontal cortex. You take your horse under control. Now let’s take the second important factor your inner dialogue or self-talk. If your mind says I’m not capable to do this work, don’t believe it. The voice in your head is the result of years of conditioning and it comes from your subconscious mind. If you believe it, even in a good life, you’ll feel like you’re failing. But the moment you interrupt that voice, even gently, everything changes. Say to yourself, I made a mistake, but I’m learning. I am capable to this work. You interrupt that loop. You activate your prefrontal cortex. You bring compassion into the equation. And every time you do this, every single time you’re rewiring your subconscious, you’re building trust with the horse and you’re teaching your mind to follow your lead. Start with breath. Start with self-talk. Start by holding the reins. Because once your mind becomes your friend, there is nothing in this world you cannot face.